TEL AVIV
Therapy for Anger Management
Stop letting anger ruin your life
Anger doesn’t have to control you.
Your anger has ruined relationships. It has harmed your career. You are angry at the world. You are angry at yourself.
You react quickly, you react strongly. You are passionate, you are acutely aware of people around you. You can protect yourself from threats. You fight back.
But you are getting in trouble for it. Your career has suffered. Your relationships are harmed. People tell you that you need to get your anger under control. You’ve tried, but it isn’t working. You want to find a new way to successfully handle life.
There are ways to change this.
When anger isn’t controlling you, you can be assertive. You can earn the respect of people in your life. You can resolve conflicts without needless fights. You won’t be exhausted from the emotional roller coaster of anger.
What Therapy Looks Like
When I help clients deal with anger, we divide it into three parts - thoughts, feelings, and behavior. Intervening with any of these makes a change in all three.
Intervening with feelings and behavior is something I usually do using a type of therapy called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). DBT is what I like to call an emotional course. It’s a series of lessons designed to help you manage really strong feelings so they don’t overwhelm you or cause you to act in ways that go against your values. In DBT, I’ll teach you about how to catch your feelings as they start to build (before you are flying off the handle and it’s incredibly hard to slow down and calm yourself), and ways to lower the intensity. We’ll learn what situations cause the anger and think about ways to prevent them in the first place.
While we will work with thoughts in DBT, I often find that after learning DBT, it is also very helpful to learn about the thoughts happening inside that cause us to get angry. Oftentimes, anger is a response to a threat we are experiencing that isn’t always obvious to people around us. So when a boss yells at me, I am likely to get angry. But the anger is often a reaction to another feeling, such as feeling embarrassed or personally attacked. Identifying the underlying beliefs behind the anger is a tremendous help in lowering your emotional reactivity in all areas of your life.
Therapy can help you
Remain in the driver’s seat of your life
Fix problems without making them worse
Build stronger communication skills
Be more confident in all areas of life
FAQs
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It's common to have reservations about therapy. Research on other clients like you indicates that therapy, including online formats, can be effective for managing anger. The virtual platform allows you to engage in therapy from a comfortable and familiar environment, which can enhance your ability to apply the coping strategies in real-life situations. However, everyone is different, and I encourage you to give it a try to see if it's the right fit for you.
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I use evidence-based approaches tailored to your individual needs. I will work with you to identify the specific challenges you're facing and develop personalized strategies that may be more effective for you. Knowing what doesn’t work for you is actually a benefit as we start therapy. It will help us narrow in on what the right tools and techniques are for you.
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Absolutely not. Anger is a complex and important emotion, and my goal is to work with you to explore the underlying causes and develop effective coping mechanisms.
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While exploring childhood experiences can be a part of therapy, it is not mandatory. When we experience a very strong emotion, we are generally experiencing both the present and past angering situations mixed into one. We can treat them by focusing on the present, or exploring the past. You have control over the topics discussed, and the goal is to provide support for your present challenges.